Thursday, May 19, 2016

What You're NOT Called To Do As A Parent

ATTENTION EVERYONE! I have good news: you are not necessarily called where someone else is called!

Don’t think you’re supposed to go to Africa (or China or Haiti or Connecticut or wherever), but feeling guilty because that girl you went to college with is doing extremely charitable works and helping make a difference over there? In the words of Amy Poehler, “Good for her! Not for me.”

Don’t want to homeschool because you feel incapable or want your kids to have different exp...eriences but your newsfeed is full of moms boasting their homeschool kids’ accolades? “Good for her! Not for me.”

Can’t afford to buy all non-GMO, certified organic, pesticide-free produce but that mom at your MOPS group won’t stop talking about how she refuses to feed her kids “garbage?” “Good for her! Not for me.”

Won’t allow sleepovers but your aunt/cousin/hairdresser is giving you grief about being overprotective and telling you how much fun their kids have at their sleepovers? “Good for her! Not for me.”

Medicated your child but second-guessing yourself because your friend swears by ONLY using essential oils for every problem ever? “Good for her! Not for me.”

She didn’t breastfeed? Co-slept? Swaddled? Started her baby on solid foods at 6 months? Didn’t work outside the home? Public school? Private school? Unschool? “Good for her! Not for me.”

You’re not called to be that kid’s mom, so let me let you off the hook. Here are the things you’re called to do:
1. Love God.
2. Love people.
3. Confess your sins and do better next time.

How you are intended to live that out is between you and God. But don’t ever- EVER- let someone else make you feel guilty for doing your very best to live out what you’re called to do. Ever.
Eh. Verrrr… got it? Don’t apologize. Don’t back down.

And on the other hand, don’t be a jerk when someone is called to live out that calling differently than you. Don’t veil your pride with concern. Don’t give advice when it’s not asked, and don’t you dare make another momma feel less-than because she CAN’T do something the same way you can. You’re not adding anything to the conversation by being a noisy gong (1 Cor 13:1).

Pop quiz:
1.) Who gets to decide your calling? Answer: God.
2.) Who gets to decide her calling? Answer: God.

You see where this is going, right? Look guys, we’re all in this raising-humans-thing together. Someday, they’ll all be changing our diapers in between making decisions for the world and raising their own babies, so let’s just make sure we get them there knowing the reality of their calling.
So let’s review: You’re you. She’s she. I’m me. God is God, and none of the rest of us are.
Burden: lifted.
Share this with someone who needs the reminder.

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